It took me years to learn what my limits are, emotionally speaking. To know where my edges and boundaries are. When is too far, too fast, or too much to handle, process or cope with. For me as a Creative (read someone who creates to eat and pay bills...oh and buy shoes!) it was essential that I learn my limits, so I could then learn to live within them, so to function at my highest capacities. So I could best set up my life and "LIVING ENVIRONMENT" to help me reach my full potential and even push those boundaries out a bit.
WHAT?! Did she just say she had to find her limits and live within them to help herself step outside of them??! That is exactly what I just said. It's sort of like doing a SWOT analysis (Strengths, Weakness, Opportunities & Threats) on your emotional Self. Your emotional Self and your outlook on life is what generates your LIVING ENVIRONMENT.
Your home and all of the material things that are part of it are your environment too, yes absolutely, but what actually changes day to day are our feelings, reactions and our experiences. Finding out where our emotional walls are is far more subtle and harder to define, but define we must.
When you learn your own limits and live within them you actually feel far more LIMITLESS. I am not so sure as to tell you why except how it works for me personally. For me when I live within my limits I can operate at peak capacity. I am not running into these walls, butting my head into them. I am not creating dramas for myself, not putting rocks in my own path by creating emotional disturbances by trying to live outside my limits...doing that just never works. Living outside my limits always causes more problems of one sort or another which I then have to spend time fixing or working through and processing to get clear again so I can get back to work.
Am I saying after finding our limits and our "walls" that we should just walk within them and stay there behind them? No, it is imperative to continue to grow and expand your boundaries and overcome our walls whether we knock them down or climb up over them. But you have to know what those bricks are made of or how tall of a ladder you may need. If you don't know your limits well you may finally get the ladder to the wall and climb all the way to the top and realize you set your ladder against the wrong wall to begin with and fall. Working on one's Self is the hardest work of all, and changing yourself, is one of the toughest things there is to do... but I believe it can be done. (Some do not)
I am fortunate at this point in my life to be able to pick and choose who I would like to work with, meaning who I want to have in my world. At least more so than most. I have my life set up so to enhance the chances of peace & quiet & serenity each day, so I can do my best creative work and have the highest output productively speaking. It has taken me years of work to accomplish this and get it set up this way. I am now protective of my LIVING ENVIRONMENT, almost as if it were a child or something of my own. Perhaps because I have invested so much of my life in doing just this.
You never know how many days you have here. They are precious, value them and know how important it is to know yourself well in the present tense so you can reach for your dreams now, not in the future tense. Besides the future only exists in the present tense anyways. Tricky huh?!